I'm going to address this to Pam, but feel free to correct me if I'm way off base.
Pam...CHL CANNOT post freely knowing you are reading. I think your reassurances about his "private" thread were very much needed.
But as he knows only too well, there are times when you can get into a state where you are NOT thinking clearly...THAT's what he's concerned about.
WHAT IF...he posts serious doubts about the viability of your M, or feelings for OW, and you read them when you're feeling suicidal?????
Sure YOU have nothing posted that you wouldn't want HIM to read, but come on! You're the one trying hard to save this M right now...
So if he IS to start his own thread, you need to make a pact with him, us and YOURSELF that you WILL NOT go near it...that you will call, e-mail, scream, do whatever needed to kill that urge should it arise.
On the OTHER hand, CHL, at SOME point Pam NEEDS to know where your heart and head are at...right?
I sense that you may not be ENTIRELY sure of that yourself right now...or perhaps your ARE, but are afraid of what it would do to her in her present state.
