I will agree there are earmarks of “script” in what you have heard.
Welcome, to one of the best worst places to be through this.
Keep posting as we get to know more about the situation, we will be able to offer more guidance.
IF this is MLC, you are in for a long road.
You asked what you can do to help him or try to get him to “see” from a different perspective.
There is nothing you can do right now. There is nothing you can do in six months. This is something HE will have to realize for HIMSELF.
However, you can and need to take care of you.
Right now, that is the best thing that you can do.
I see you as having a unique opportunity with him being deployed shortly. You have time, not time forced by him, but time none the less, to learn to focus on you.
Start by reading the MLC resources. And the archives. Remember that the stages you will read about, do not go in order. They are merely a guideline. A description of what your spouse is going through.
Take this time, to read, learn, get your life in order. You will not be sorry.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
