Talk About a Quick Divorce

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A big part of me wants to be a nice person and another competing side of me says just minimize any contact with her that doesn't involve the kids, move along, be a good me, and focus on the forward not the past. I don't know why she is so angry at me these days and wonder was it:

1. The terms of the divorce and the fact that her income and lifestyle took a major hit?
2. the fact that her affair got out and people took sides and overwhelmingly took my side?
3. The fact that she is living in a rental house now versus her dream home that we built 10 years ago in a neighborhood with her friends? Before anyone rushes to judgement its not a shack--she has a 3 car garage and 3500 feet or so in the rental.
4. Is she coming to some realization that it might have been easier to have just worked on her marriage?
5. Is some of the luster wearing off the OM?
6. Does she just out and out hate me and therefore regardless of the terms was the divorce justified? Maybe it was and maybe it was meant to be.

I'd like to wake up one of these days and have her standing at the door saying it was a huge mistake and she can't believe what she's done. I can't say I would be able to take her back but it would at least let me know I am not crazy and marriage wasn't a sham all these years.