Hmmm. That sounds like the ponderings of the person having an affair. Are you having an affair with us? You are not the first person whose spouse has been unhappy over this site. As a matter of fact, that's how Greek joined us. She saw that Coach was spending a lot of time talking to us and she joined the site to see what was up, and stayed. Some people have dropped the site and honored the spouses demand. I assume that the spouse gave something on that deal too. Others have changed their names and returned. All decisions of what to do in your situation of for you to make because you will live with the results of those decisions. But do take note of how you feel when a spouse tries to control you so that you can avoid doing the same to her.