My spouse has been asking all of our married life - 16 years - for me to stop smoking because its that important to her.
In turn, I tried a few times but never delivered or followed through on a consistent barrage of methods.
Smoking is something I need to get rid of in my life if I ever expect to get back with my W. The fact is, she will no longer be with a smoker in her future life.
Shouldn't I eliminate smoking as I had previously eliminated self-pleasure - to demonstrate to her AND MYSELF that, yes, I can be the person I need myself to be?
or is this a matter of steps and I am putting the steps in the wrong order?
From what I hear you saying: 1. enforce your perspective as a man 2. refine your perspective to become better 3. attract the woman you would like to spend forever with
Whereas I am operating in a 2, 3, 1 manner.
Why does it have to be 1,2,3 when we have been living at step 0 (do nothing) all along for the past 2-3 years?
