We all slip. We all have had those days. The key is realizing that they are just days and finding ways to move past them.
While the odds do not always look great, they are just that, odds. One thing you will realize too is that many of the situations that do not reconcile, is not because the MLCer doesn't wake up, but because depending on circumstances, changes in a person, etc... The LBS may not want them back.
Because it does become a whole new R, or potentially a whole new R, because of our own changes, when the awakening happens, it is possible to look at it and say, this just isn't someone I want to be with anymore.
The biggest difference with in that, is that the LBS has, hopefully, taken the time, grown, healed, learned, and can look back on the old R for what it really was, can look at the S for who they really are and make a rational decision.
Something I always ask myself when evaluating a R with someone, especially if there are some rocky times, is "if I met this person right now on the street, would I chose them for a friend?"
If I can answer yes to that question, then, to me, it is worth seeing if things can be ironed out or continue. If the answer is no, well then I know that the R is no longer good for me or my life. In many ways, it is really about removing your emotions from the equation, good and bad emotions, in order to evaluate it properly.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
