@awoken Thanks! Agree that it's fear and you are right. Even though it will be perceived as "revenge" by them, it will be good to protect any others from future harm.
@ruined Good point on not wanting to harm a relationship with H that really isn't in existence right now! And with my friends, similar things, except two were recently married and now I am kind of a "disease" they may catch. It's been interesting to watch. For the most part though, some D family and friends are the ones pushing me hardest- they all happily remarried, had kids, and are telling me waiting is not worth it, there is something better around the corner waiting.. Hmmm...Guess I just have to set a deadline for me and then make the decision.
Question.. I'm not ready to file papers just yet but has anyone brought their h to court to try and get him to pay at least his fair share of the bill? I am torn between just sucking it up and continuing to have to just barely make ends meet.... or to actually force him to pay his share or at least part of the mortgage. I guess I just still can't wrap my head around how someone can just walk out and away from all their responsibilities!
