I get that exh has other kids..so do I. But if my kids need me to do something on MWF or Saturday mornings during exh's time I tell them I can't because its his visit time. I don't call exh and tell him my other kids come first sorry hes outta luck. His other kids are 15 and 13...not like they cannot stay alone for an hour.
not selfish at all.
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I told him that Tuesdays and Thursdays are very busy for us because I don't plan anything MWF because those are his days and that is important.
I love that you said this, that was really good. I am upset that I didn't think of that!!! wow!
So what percentage of the time do you think he is cancelling or cutting short due to his other kids? If it is a lot, and if he still continues to do this, then maybe you should tell him what you said above, about telling your kids that you are unavailable because it is H's time. I would say to use action on this one and just NOT be available, but that would be bad and look like your keeping her away. So, I can't think of anything else creative for you to do so he'll quit this nonsense.
But, I will like to see what happens next after you told him you keep your MWF open for his time.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
