You know, you may not realize it, but just having your few posts here on this thread have given the rest of us some insights on how to help Pam out.
I've noticed a more straightforward, even blunt tone to the posts on HER thread. You have NO idea how many pleas for her to get a GOOD counsellor and get this depression under control have come up these past few days.
Cool. I've been encouraging Pam to turn to the BB for support, and to be very blunt about things. I'm not sure how my posts helped, but am glad they did.
Quote: It is also clear to us that at present YOU are just tapped out...she really needs to find alternative sources of support and WORK through her emotions.
I LOVE the analogy that someone (opt? zoo?) used on her thread today when she mentioned that you didn't seem to notice that her emotional meltdowns were fewer...
The poster said something to the effect of...."The guy is buried under a ton of dirt...and you expect him to notice that you've taken a shovelfull off the top????"
We're here for you too, CHL, REGARDLESS of how things turn out for Pam and you.
It's SO helpful to hear about your end of things. I wish you could feel freer to really share.
I DO still think that your own thread would be ideal.
Do you fear that Pam wouldn't be able to resist checking it? There must be some kind of assurance/ deal you can cook up???
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Shiny
I do feel tapped out. Should I decide to start my own thread, I may go into more detail. I think I would feel better about discussing such things in my own "private" area. I think when Pam's feeling okay, she wouldn't check my thread. When she gets into one of her "frenzied" states, I'm not as sure.
