ps - Do you find that the sheer rejection is a hard thing to take?
I had to think about my response for a few days...
"yes", "sometimes", "only every time I think/hear his name"...
At times it is very hard not to feel rejected but I think I get into a pity party when I focus on the rejection. That self pity only hurts me and I start obsessing, FB surfing for information, listening to sad country songs, etc. None of which is helpful for me.
I cope so much better when I tell myself, and others in conversation, that STBX isn't a bad person but made some bad choices and I'm just looking forward now and getting on with my life. Talking with that confidence makes me feel better, like a self fulfilling prophesy.
So I'm getting better (mostly) at catching myself when I focus on the rejection and changing my thoughts, and then my attitude improves too. It works for me anyway.
