Talk to atty quick. - If he's threatening you then you need protection now.
- The statement "We each have one kid so were even" isn't correct. He owes you support.
- Ask about insurance. He is likely not allowed to cancel suddenly and leave you and dependents without.
Most of all be strong.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh