Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[flowmom]

Like I wrote before, I think you need counselling from someone who can bridge both cultures. I'm sure that's available out there, you just have to look for it. And your W may be waaaay more open to participating in a process where someone finally "gets" where she's coming from .

The story of my parents had a sad ending. My mother left my father due to his harshness, then he died soon after due to a health condition that probably wasn't helped by losing his wife and 2 tiny children. They had no support, no one who helped them to bridge the cultural gap. Other intercultural marriages do manage to work through their problems, and imagine outside support often plays a big role in that. Your W is at such a huge disadvantage being both a SAHM of many children, being away from her family, and being in a culture that is not her own. It's unlikely that she will be able to blossom as a person until there is more support for her and her POV.