You know ... I'm FAR from a saint, and can't even claim to be halfway socially responsible at times.
But it did hit me that giving you (nsw) advice here is helping to equip you to "win" back your ex, without you showing a single sign of changing / improving yourself at all.
I'm all for helping people help themselves and to deal with their emotional pain however possible. But the other side of this ... really, I can't say I would do this to most people, even strangers ... and I don't know the ex at all obviously.
Are you saying you're having misgivings about my getting advice here because even though it may pay off in my getting my ex back I wouldnt have changed/evolved in the process?