As I've posted before, don't even bother with Retrouvaille unless the OM is out of the picture. Otherwise you will be wasting your time, and it is too emotional an experience to have it go to waste.
Your W might be turning to books on faith hoping for forgiveness from God. In my case My W is hitting that stuff hard, thinking that she can bust up our marriage and be forgiven for it after the fact.
I want to tell her that there would be no such thing as sin if that were the case. Everyone would do whatever they wanted and just ask for forgiveness later.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09