all very sound advice...i'd probably have thrown myself at his feet without the things i've learned from all of you on this site!

i am doing my best to be strong and becoming the best person i can be. i know i can only hope that my H will take my lead and work on himself, too...but it does give me little rays of hope when he does things like trek through a blizzard to see me.

the hug definitely didn't make me feel sad...it made me feel hopeful. and the way his body relaxed into my arms gave me the impression that he felt the same way. i know he has to want to help himself and he has to want to work on our M, but at least for the moment i don't feel like he's made up his mind against our life together. which motivates me to work on myself even more.

Me30 H29
M2.5 T5
H moved out 1/23/2010
H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010
...feeling hopeless