"this woman needs to BACK THE %$%& OFF from your marriage!"
Okay, need tips on how to be mysterious!
Let me try to address this stuff.
1. No, I have not told him to end it but he knows it bothers me a lot. I could but I haven't felt it to be the right time because of the ground we were on. When did have 1 conversation with him about it, he felt guilty, acknowledged it needs to stop for us to move forward but I have not forbid it to continue in part because he said he does not expect fidelity from me during this time and I can date other people and it would not bother him (DB coach says she highly doubts that). Then a week later talks about looking for houses together in about a year or so. (I will and cannot move back into the house we were living in (his family home, we were only supposed to be there 3 years - that was the deal for me to buy it - environment kills me, right on highway with trailer trucks going 55 mph hitting giant cracks 15 feet from your bed etc, we would just divorce I cannot handle it there. Would rather divorce than live there, sucks but my body just cannot handle it (I can get my but kicked during a sparring match and punched in the face but I can't live on a highway...I know I am not a wuss but my body is my body and can only change so much.)
2. Look great, active, etc. prob. getting boob job over the summer too - nice icing on the cake. Have plenty of other men dying for H to be out of the picture and given the circumstances meeting one for dinner tomorrow night. The thing is, I can't get involved with someone else or I will end my marriage which feels so wrong to do when things are literally better than they have been in 5 years!! I just cannot toy with someone else like that - most guys look at me like the girl to take home to Mom, not a party time girl so feelings are involved- though in terms of being totally perverted and sexual I have that I guess! Am I the only one is this trio that looks out for others feelings!?!?!?
3. If he porked her, I am getting that HPV vaccine shot. Will call the dr. in the morning. oy! lol maybe they use our old toys LOL cracking myself up - GROSS!!!! Thanks!
4. Yes, when my son called me by her name I shed a tear and held it in so son would not be upset. Karate makes everthing better is all I can say and DB coach really helped me that day - so lucky one was available.
5. Mysterious, I can do much better in that department, have any tips? How do you be mysterious? Wear sexy dress when he comes to get son and look like ready to go out - then go of course!?? Tips really appreciated!!
I sometimes feel like I am being unreasonable. Again, just really confused. I also don't understand how this can be so accepted by everyone - besides the friends he lost because they think what he is doing is awful and my son's preschool teachers thinking he is bringing his perceived affair partner to school with him. He was actually surprised to hear that his teachers thought he was a scumbag!!! (did not put it that way) Again "just friends" he said. Oy.
So confused! DB coach says don't talk about it at all and I have not save that one instance. I called our counselor and am making an appointment for just me. She has been great and we both respect her a lot. I don't think she was thrilled to hear H was "on vacation" with his secretary (also, she has acted really jealous with any attention H has given me.) We all don't work in the same office anymore so we are never together which is nice.
Last thing, I am so not like this person. She is weak and needy and still lives with her parents. She cries all the time and is always in crisis mode because of some medical or family issue, she is obsessed with shoes and purses. I just cannot be like that. If that is what he wants in a woman this will never work. I am strong but not an ass and have really really shown my apprecaition for all he has done. I respect H a lot actually, excelled father, courteous, respectful (now). She can also be happy, upbeat, flirty, has giant boobs and is a ballerina (which my H and I both respect as an artform but really don't get - we are both musicians - though not our primary job. I am a trumpet player and have a great big band I reconnected and play with. Again, I think I am a nice catch but can definitly play up mystery and enjoy every minute!
Need tips on Mystery for sure - Anyone...anyone!!!
- besides the friends he lost because they think what he is doing is awful and my son's preschool teachers thinking he is bringing his perceived affair partner to school with him. He was actually surprised to hear that his teachers thought he was a scumbag!!! (did not put it that way) Again "just friends" he said. Oy. 