I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[MrBond]

Yep it's all about guilt.

"she said people ask about me at her work and it upsets her when they ask."

How dare they ask about my H! I am happy now without that person in my life, why can't I be left alone. Guilt. Plain and simple.

You DB so that you don't have depressing thread names like the one you have. DBing isn't just about saving your M. It's about saving yourself. It's about building yourself up. Let me put it this way. Your W did a pretty good job at destroying your self-esteem and the foundation that you are on. Why? It's the same reason why a bully will put down someone who they feel is a threat to them. They tear them down to build themselves up.

So what's the best way to treat a bully? To stand up to them.

Anyhow what you're doing isn't working obviously. So it's time to do something different. Once you start shaking up that little fantasy she has built up in her head, her carefully laid plans will crumble like a deck of cards. And you know what? She'll turn it around and blame you for her unhappiness.

Just remember. She started this. Not you.

As for the thing about moving back, it's your place too. Call her and tell her that you had a change of heart and are planning to move back in tomorrow (example). You have to give a date and time and stick with it. She'll ask why and you tell her that it's because you were wrong to have moved away from your own home. She's going to say that she can't live with you there. Just shrug and say "well that's your choice". And if she says you still can't come home, tell her that you are planning to have a locksmith and a police officer there to allow you legal entry into your home, but it would be easier if she just gave you the keys.

You are going to see hellfire burning out of her eyes, but stand strong. Let's put it this way. Was she respecting you when she wanted to have sex with that guy on her cruise? Of course not. Time to get your self-respect back my friend. And a king can't do that until he's back in his castle. Of course you still should be looking for a job and be a man about it.

It's time to get your balls back from your W.