When do you request your spouse end an EA?

[newmama]

Okay Dani, well I am sure Allen or someone else with lots of knowledge and experience will be dropping by to help you, too, but be warned that 1) this section moves pretty slow-newcomers forum gets tons of traffic 2)you will hear conflicting advice.

So next q's I have: have you already exposed and to whom? Have you been crystal clear with your H that you do not want him to have a friendship with this woman anymore? And that you will not work on your marriage unless he ends it, but you don't know how long you will wait for him?

Have you been looking good, keeping busy, acting mysterious around your H?

he has been with her -though I don't believe intimately which I know sounds completely naive - for the entire separation.

Odds are 99.9% that they have been intimate if she is living with him and tucking your son into bed each night!! sorry but I bet very good money on it--if you still had access to bills maybe you could find proof of purchases of hotel rooms or lingerie or toys, etc. to convince yourself. I had to do that! I just never believed my H would cross that line!but he did which is why he just became more "in love" and couldn't just end it with her...

I was prompted to call the DB coach after my son called me by her name while reading a story before bedtime! AGH!!!

I do not know how you dealt with that!!!!!I would be sooooo angry and hurt!

Kills me I still remain friendly with her - she even sent me a birthday present. It is all so confusing because she is a nice person??

No one said the OW was 100% cruel...but this woman needs to BACK THE %$%& OFF from your marriage! She is NOT ACTING like a nice person in the moment!

Now I wonder if your H doesn't consider it an affair since you 2 are separated?