Hi Aver, I totally sympathize w the bad IC. I had a terrible C right after the bomb, when I was most vulnerable. I agree w Flowmom, if after several sessions you're going nowhere/don't like your C, get another. I wish I had fired my 1st one sooner!
Oddly, I had a dream too last night w H in it! I dont' really think I've had a dream w him in it since the bomb, but not sure anymore. In my dream, we were separated. I can't remember all the details now. But it wasn't a happy flashback, or anything bad really, just kind of realistic I guess. I think it's just our brains processing the trauma.
I'm understanding how you feel about the house. Can the L's give you a timeframe of how this might play out if you fight? Can you calculate the cost? Maybe you already have. I know you're wrestling with this now. But keep thinking about YOU. What is the best outcome for you??
Yes, it would be different when/if he moved all his stuff out. Bare walls, empty rooms. I would cry rivers.
You know what, I am to the point where I can't stand to see H's stuff, I put it away, out of sight. I just wonder if you try imagining what it would look like when all his stuff is gone, will you still want to be there? Maybe so but if you were to get house won't he be clearing all his stuff out?
I don't know if this is helpful but you have my support going through this. And your GALing is awesome! I need to follow your lead there. 6:15 p.m. - time to leave work!! I'll check back soon (((Aver))))
