Allen A, The funny thing about my brother-in-law is I was the one he leaned on during that time. And I was the one telling him to not call her or text and to go out and try to have fun. Here I am a year and half later and I'm NOT following my own advice.
I just had a long conversation with a close family relative and she laid it out to me just like you all have. I'm acting desperate and I'm available when he needs me. She finally said to me "Your afraid he will be mad at you if you tell everyone, including the OWH". And she is so right, that is my fear, I don't want him to be mad at me. She explained that going dark and standing up for myself will show him, that he cannot walk all over me. She asked me to please put all my energy into myself and my kids and stop worrying if I'm actions are going to hurt his feelings.
I know it's the right thing to do, why does it have to be so hard to implement. I feel like I'm going insane with these different emotions; be nice or detach!!!! I believe it's the loneliness that is taken over in me )-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
