Hi H, You are sounding good these days! IMO you handled the lunch w H very succesfully! I applaud you!
Re: your question, which 25 has addressed well, I understand where you’re coming from. This is exactly where I’m at. Except I don’t consider #2 an option. From what I can see of your sitch, #2 would be going backwards. It seems like you really want to have a friendship w your H after the D, and that won't happen if you do #2. I envy this, b/c that is probably not in the cards for me.
I'll repeat what the others said: You are on track. You are doing great. I hear what you're saying about not really wanting D, so should you agree to it? I still don't want a D either. But I feel like, after 10, going on 11 mos. of this that it is the only way to go. If H has left, done all this stuff showing he doesn't want to be married to me, why do I want to hold on to that? I don't anymore.
As Kara says, you're not staring at that door waiting for it to swing open. You're going on with your life, which believe me sounds totally exciting! You are in a good place, feel good about that. And don't worry about the past dynamics now. Believe me I've tortured myself too obsessing about the things I did wrong, though I may not have realized it then, in the M. Keep focusing your energy on your exciting life, as you've been doing spectacular lately! Your GALing is inspring! ((((h))))
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