I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[lea74]

Talia, I can totally understand how you feel. My friends have all suggested that I 'take my H to the cleaners', however I just cant do it. My H earns a decent salary and is able to maintain two households at the moment, although I do work and pay my own bills.

I agree you both should come out of this intact. If you have kids you will actually be attached no matter what for the rest of your lives and I am sure that you dont want to be hating each other forever - money can do that to people. They say we should leave a small door open should they want to return and by showing humility I think you can.

All that I want is for my lifestyle to stay as it is and my boys and I to continue the things we always have. I want to still be able to work partime so that I can be there for drop off and pick up.

I agree some parts of me want him to pay (Literally) for his Decision to leave our family and break my childrens heart - but then I remember this is not the man I married.

I think you need to do what feels right for you. I know what I need and I will ensure that I get that - nothing more nothing less.

It is really sad that at the end of the day, it all comes down to finances.