The S issue to definitely going to be tricky. My S is only 17 months and we are already having the issue of him being protective of me. He'll hit at H everytime he touches me. But it's just really too bad H didn't take advantage of his day off to spend some time with S today. He needs to get reaquainted with S and needs to take the time to do that.
You know there's really no comforting words I can give on this, because, yes, it does totally suck. I get so mad too b/c of all H has put me thru and then for me to still work my butt off to save our M. But the truth is that it's not fair. We have to do way more then our share and give, give, give, all the while hanging on the the HOPE that things will change for the better. But it goes back to the fact that we are the kind, loving, good people that we are, and at the end of the day, we will know we did everything we could to save are M's. I can live with mywself with that.
That much being said, while we are working on saving our M, doesn't mean we have to be door mats either. You are completely valid in setting boundaries regarding OW. Especially now that you're on a time limit, this is even more important. Maybe just try feeling him out on MC, so you can kind of get an idea of where his heart is at. This is just so difficult b/c you have the fine line of setting appropriate boundaries (which you are completely entitled to) but not coming off as pushy or controlling. Just try to keep the communication going with him and when you feel angry and frustrated, come vent here. Although he may deserve some of your anger for continuing to act like an idiot, it's not helpful and just makes them defensive. Hopefully the dr appt and grocery run goes well with H today. Just try to keep your cool and explore subjects as they come up. Good luck!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
