I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

I greatly appreciate the advice from you guys, and I would love to move back into our apt but it is not that easy. She is the bread winner in this scenerio - I am in school and as it stands I have had trouble even finding a part-time job. When this began she told me I had to move out and when I said I would not she said she would then and I'd be stuck with the rent (though I guess both of our names were on the lease -hmm).

How can I just move back in if she won't allow me too? She has changed the locks on me. She won't even allow me to go over there to collect my mail. Heck she has even taken me off of the checking account. Can I force her to give me a key to our apt?

Busting the affair is a good idea but I'm not for sure OM is still married - but I will find out! How do I set boundries about her seeing and talking to him? It seems I don't have a leg to stand on as she is doing whatever she wants.