OTMT: I married her WITHOUT KNOWING HER. Doesn't that ring the bell - I had THREE SHORT LETTERS FROM HER - that's all! I didn't have any connection.
This is a difficult situation. There may be hope if you try to address the reasons she finds you disrespectful. If she learns to trust you, maybe you two will get to know each other after all this time better and connect. On the other hand, I do not know that I believe as strongly as some of these other posters that marriages that happened before two people knew each other well can ultimately survive. Maybe they can and happily. I don't know. I had friends whose parents had happy, arranged marriages with not even just three short letters! So it's hard to say. Good luck.
