Sorry, OTMT, sorry that you are feeling defensive here.
Could I have avoided it? - I'm the 'wolf'
I've had a lot of online checks, reading of Qur'an verses about D and trying to avoid it/prevent it, etc. No minister of sorts, though.
She wanted to go, but to have them "judge" us. I said no way. Also, they aren't counsellors, just ministers (imam). Our belief from the Prophet was that you go to the experts for areas that aren't religion. So M problems to M counsellors, I think.
