mb28, to me part of GAL is maintaining the integrity and authenticity of who I am. If my efforts to DB are undermining that, then there is something wrong with how I am DBing. How is your GAL going? If contacting the OWH has become a preoccupation/obsession then IMO you need to redirect. The vets here have fantastic advice, but if you cannot realistically follow their advice for practical reasons (not having a phone number or address), then IMO it's time to back-burner this plan and get back to GAL. Hugs to you know. I can only imagine the pain of dealing with the A.