In reading back over this list of things I can do I am kinda confused. How will showing my W I have moved on make her interested in me again? It seems like if she has made me move out and is seeing OM she doesn't really care if I'm available/have moved on. I think part of the reason we are in this situation is because of my lack of interation with her.
I know, I know, it seems counter-intuitive, Quart, but it really does work. We've seen it hundreds of times on here, and there's sound research behind it as well.
There are lots of cards still to play; this is by no means over. First thing you need to do, however, is move back into your house (and into your own bedroom), and expose your wife's affair to the OM's wife.
