My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

[MrBond]

I can see why sandi and everyone else had gotten so frustrated with you in terms of not listening. What part of "do not contact her" didn't you understand? I believe you said that yourself.

"I think I remarked how calm she seemed today in comparison to yesterday"

I can't believe you actually said that. THAT is just asking for a fight. I don't know if you really don't know what pushes her buttons, but that's a big one. You are saying all of this is HER fault. It may very well be, but you don't keep prodding that especially in front of your D.

"If my car door hadn’t been shut, I would have fallen out and hit the ground. I think my response was something like "oh ok"...but on the inside, I was thinking, "wtf is going on here...she said all that stuff to me yesterday and then comes back with this. crazy." (By the way, vets...is that pursuit by her and what might have caused it?)"

THAT is NOT pursuit. She's just making a statement. Besides you're not supposed to be talking to her right?

So far it doesn't sound like your W's bipolar. If you were to talk to another female the way you just did with your W, I think they'd get pissed too.

You're reading too much into stuff. Just detach, be calm, cool and collected when you do see her, but that's it.