Learning to pick up on when is not a good time to discuss things is definitely more of an art than I used to think it was lol! I keep my ears peeled for warning signs of "I dont want to discuss this right now" and try and turn it into

1) Validate the feelings
2) Validate he/she's need to leave it for now
3) Ask for a time when its suitable to talk about it
4) Discuss problem
5) Bring to sensible conclusion

Takes five times as long as "scream about it till heard" but it works far quicker lol!

Have to say Im struggling keeping my valentine expectations low, Ive done all my things, nice hand made card, hand made chocolates and a book I know he wants, but why do I have this sinking feeling mines just not gonna cut the mustard!

Last edited by Lost Rabbit; 02/10/10 08:46 PM.
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