Are there any ladies here who can give examples of traits of the attractive strong guy that seems to be what women are looking for?
I'm not a lady (I feel old when I get called that ). I'll try to answer though.
Attractive, in no particular order:
a great smile
healthy habits
being truly *in* his and aware of his body
taking pride in his work and how he does it, both paid and otherwise
having passion(s) outside of relationships and paid work, and making time for them
maintaining strong friendships and being interested in other people
being able to truly relax
being a fun, connected dad
aware of own emotional needs
knowing what he wants and taking risks to pursue that
being able to poke fun at himself and not take himself too seriously, humour
casually flirtatious
balanced ego - projects awareness of strengths and faults
mixed signals about availability
unpredictable in courtship rituals
Unattractive:
workaholic
narcissistic (preoccupied with self)
no interests
out of touch with body/chronically stressed
always "plugged in" (computer/phone/tv/blackberry/iphone/cell/video game, etc.
"walking wounded" - obviously emotionally damaged, but not dealing with it
uninspired parent
boasting, false confidence, fake PMA
disrespect/contempt towards women including mother/wife/ex, etc.
scripted/planned flirtation/humour
inflated ego
neon sign flashing "I'm available"
Most of the things in my "attractive" list are things that you could start working on today.
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). I'll try to answer though.