Getting Tired of Trying- any advice?

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And she is licensed.. actually up for renewal in June this year. he says it was just flirting but if you saw the email (I should cut and paste it here at some point) it's pretty graphic so not sure it wasn't a PA too. Just afraid of reporting her at this point as that might be the act that shuts down h's willingness to even try to work on our relationship. Trying to set a deadline in my head for when if things aren't better than I can report it.

That is your decision as to whether or not to report her. The fact is, any sort of inappropriate relationship w/ a patient is completely unethical and she can be disbarred for it.

I understand your reticence not to do anything that may anger H. But I guess it comes back to: you don't have much of a M/R w/ your H right now. As for this therapist, I would question whether or not this is the first time she has been inappropriately involved w/ a patient. I would be inclined to think not, as she is completely aware of what she stands to lose if this were discovered.

How are your friends and family with your decision to move back out? Mine are really pushing me hard to cut the ties and move on with my life.

My single, never M friends have been pushing me to D since 2 months in. This attitude is definitely taking a toll on my R w/these friends.

Told my BFF a few days ago that he doesn't understand, it is nothing like dating somebody, that it [M] is way bigger than any R he's ever had. I know he still doesn't get it. But I am trying to make him understand that either a.) he support me in trying to save my M or b.) we will no longer be friends anymore.

Another single friend drunkenly uttered this to me: 'I need you to be single w/me so I have something to do next Thanksgiving'. That sentiment really makes sense of why she's been so adamant that I get D so early on.

My M/engaged friends seem much more understanding and supportive of my decision to try and save M. I'm spending most of my time w/these friends.

I think generally, one's friends don't want to see you in pain, and since the one causing all the pain is the WAH, friends jump to conclusion that if H just goes away, he'll take the pain with. I understand the intention is good, but the actuality is it just doesn't work that way.

Plus, they've been keeping me sane. Even those days you just want to stay in bed, they force you to get up and out!

AMEN!!!