Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Rabbit - thanks again and I do want to mention she treats me respectfully in front of the kids. That has only been issue one time and I put a stop to that and she seems very aware of this since. I know its important to her, with her mind being that we will D eventually, she wants us to always get along for the kids sake, she has told me this more than once. I need more days of not caring about cake eating and crumb throwing...need to get to the point where I can drop the rope.

The only part that really I cared about and continue to think about is could she be setting up a rendezvous with OM while visiting her dad. I guess a big sign would be if she stays in her dad's house or in a hotel...

Sandi - I follow your advice and logic clearly, especially now. It really sinks in about being a 180 calling her out on private computer activity, but I still know I would need to be careful here...think thru very carefully what I would say.

Last night - no private computer activity...she was in the same room with me, just a few feet away...so there was no reason last night.

Thanks for the words on the finances. Just wanted to make sure. That is one I have wondered about a lot. W is insecure when it comes to finances, in fact, when she dropped the bomb she told me I had better not throw money/finances in her face to try to scare her into changing her mind.

I'm still looking into the software suggestions that sportsfan mentioned.