I've struggled with resentment as well. I had a lot of role modeling of that from my mother, and honestly I think I learned it as a habit from her. In recent years I've actually realized that many wives/mothers don't regularly feel resentful. It sounds stupid, but I guess I just didn't see the alternatives very clearly.
Take care and I hope that these more peaceful relaxed times become more frequent. From reading it sounds like you have the capacity to set a positive tone with your H, and that that works.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
