Actually, OhGodNotAgain,

It seems you took a snippet of my story and did not bother to read the rest as to WHY I was awarded what I was.

(A) I live in a fault state and my H had an affair
(B) During the course of our 22 month court case my H stole our car, wiped out 6 figures of joint assets on his affair and moved three times w/o telling me
(C) He squandered well in the 6 figures on legal proceedings for close to 2 years only to back down the day before our trial started
(D) I have a disease called SLE and in my state a criteria for division is the health of both spouses. Seeing how SLE has no cure, well, my organs could shut down at any time.

So, no, it wasn't me trying to rape him.

Good for you AFG - I know this hurts and is frightening to deal with but I am proud of you!