She's not sure this is what she wants. Keep doing what you are doing but let her know she has the option to stop this at anytime. Load up on the truth darts and use them surgically.
I agree she often seems ambivalent but thus far I've chalked it up to gima's having been so decent and accommodating throughout followed by, for lack of a better term, the "new" gima. That and, of course, her penchant for keeping up appearances.
So, no, don't close any doors completely (or at least don't lock them if you do). However, this:
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
I know I can't fix her or even persuade her, but it all seems so avaoidable. So, surmountable.... I want it to work, and know it can, but she doesn't.
is the LBH's never-ending dilemma and constant mindset: It always comes back down to/keeps coming back to this. I came right out and said -and emailed - as much to my ex not two weeks ago.
And kept thinking it in court yesterday.
gima, just keep following your heart. And please take my comments above with a very big grain of salt, coming as they do from someone who has just been so reluctantly - and needlessly - Divorced.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
