Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

Thanks everyone, prayers really appreciated.

We had tentative dinner plans for 7:00. She had texted me the address of the hotel, which was really close to work. I had a terrible training with a new customer at work and got off late. Guy was angry before I even called him and stayed that way, pushing for a refund. The job is cool, but I'm learning how hard it is to help and train non-technical people without talking down to them. Should be good experience.

I texted W at 6:45 "ready when you are", then called just after 7:00. I could tell she was asleep, and she said she still had lots of phone calls and e-mails to FIL to do. She said it would be really late, that she'd actually fallen asleep at a truck stop on the way. I told her that's fine, that I'd grab dinner and had stuff to do. "I'm parked at La Quinta, so I'll stay in the area" I said. She freaked out. "I told you not to do that". I asked what she meant, and she said "I need space" and hung up. 30 minutes later a text "I'm ticked off and don't want to hang out tonight".

It was such a rush of emotions it's hard to explain. The old feeling that FIL always wins, and I always get blown off. How much longer do I put up with this? I hit the gym and took out some frustration, called a good friend and vented and prayed. Worked on my house some more and then went to bed. That was hard.

W called just then, explained that this all feels really strange, that when we see each other she needs to know things ahead of time and not be surprised. I told her I understood. She said she sleeps so much better with me there (big change!), and thought it would be fun, but it didn't work out this time. She had just arrived at the hotel, and was setting up her new Netbook.

I took a chance and said "if you need tech support, it would save me fighting traffic in the morning". She said "I was going to ask you that, would that be OK?" She also wanted something to eat, so I stopped on the way.

When I got there she was very chatty, and I was really tired, but it was good. She told me she's on disability now, and they backdated it so she got a big check in September, but that money's run out now. She had been denied once, but applied again, and writing it all out, listing 15 doctors she's seen, and then getting the approval letter was a realization that things really are this bad. I have to admit it hit me hard also, but I'm very proud of her and glad at the news. She'll get Medicare in another 2 years, which is great also.

She had to leave early this morning for a support group meeting at her doctor's, but we're scheduled for lunch and maybe something tonight. She's worried FIL will pressure her to get back home. I need to make up a name for him, like SAHFIL.