D and wife are flipping nuts and mean and selfish.
People often behave as they are treated. To you treat D with respect and kindness? Do you set boundaries for D with respect in mind or control and suppressed individualism?
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I am great if I get walked over, I'm terrible and punished if I don't allow it.
Once again...are your boundaries in place to control or protect?
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D and I's relationship is much more difficult than typical father daughter relationship.
Are you so sure? I think most fathers have issues with their children developing a self-identity.
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My wife wasn't a parent she was always d's best friend and always covered for her.
Water under the bridge....At this point you are only in control of how you interact with your daughter.
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It would be too easy to make a threat or order, but it falls on deaf ears.
Are you a leader or a tyrant? Think of both Hitler and Ghandi. Both were leaders....one by tyranny and one by pacification. Who's style overcame the adversity more successfully? Boundaries are good, but the delivery makes the difference.
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happening right now, i say no to a sleepover on a school nite, now i a pos and she's going to the movies cause mom said she could go and not staying with me and mom says its her life she can live it.
Did you explain why she couldn't? Did you give her achievable goals so that she can achieve her end goal. Not saying Mom was right, but was the situation described accurately and without opinion?
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Can tell you this if either of them were a guy, I'd so kick their butts.:)
Fighting is good for two things...bruised knuckles and making enemies...nothing else.
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I got this with D and if she's miserable with me, so be it, be miserable.Somebody in the court system is going to see my side of things.And D is going to start asking vs telling.the heart shots, well she'll always be my D.
Would rather choose to be with some one or be told to be with some one?
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But unlike D he isn't selfish.
Maybe because you have treated him with more respect than your daughter. Look at how you have treated him, set boundaries, etc.....Did you really treat each child the same?
What I am saying overall...step out of your shoes and look at it from your daughters. How would you react?
