As to the AD question, I'd check with your doctor. Worst case scenarion she/he tells you to wait a bit longer, which is what you want to do anyway. Don't see how you can lose.
On communication, have you tried to identify a single topic and then write to each other? I find that I can express myself much more clearly in writing.
And make sure to differentiate between 'feelings' and 'thoughts/ideas' Feelings are neither good nor bad, just different. That puts things in perspective.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
