Do you know what you have probably done the best thing! I find that when I can no longer cope with the crap being dished out its just better for me to retreat into myself for a bit.. This is a huge 180 for me as before I probably would have blasted off at H, but no I take time out. Usually it brings H to me, rather than me losing it chasing H away from me.
The honest truth is that when we are not affected by either cake eating or crumb throwing we then feel better with our lot, some days we can do it others we cant, so dont beat yourself up about things just accept them for what they are.
At the risk of repeating ourselves over and over again as we all seem to be stuck on this one at the moment is that we cant fix it only they can. Its gonna be hard setting boundaries with her if you dont have an proof of EA but you can set boundaries of what behaviour you will accept her inflicting on you. Be firm with those, you deserve to be treated respectfully and with some semblance of kindness especially infront of the girls.
It is very hard and very wearing but things do get better even if its only from your point of view.
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
