That list really helped me alot in the early days of my situation. Some of them I had already started doing intuitively, and some I hadn't. Regardless, I read that list many times a day, every single day during the month of total NC w/H. It helped.

M & H: 40
M: 5.5 T: 7.5
OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09
Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10

still m'd, unsure how to procede

Soapie:
1: http://tinyurl.com/vulcanized1
2: http://tinyurl.com/vulcanized2
3: http://tiny.com/vulcanized3