He's full of chit, and you know that. Do NOT let him, in his fogged-out, poor-character, define YOU.
I know it hurts, but this is all 'SCRIPT'. My wife told me, at various times after serving her, that she "hated" me, that I "made her physically ill," that she "would never, EVER stay married to me" (this was 2-1/2 years ago,
Your husband is feeling angry, embarrassed, guilty and entitled -- all mixed into one. Meaning you and/or sitch are starting to "get" to him! IGNORE HIS TEXTS. Again: Please, PLEASE, PLEASE do this!! Take away this power over you that you voluntarily give to him. If/when you see him, just do the "smile-and-wave" thing that SmileysPerson used to talk about, (or, as I call it, the "stupid-and-cheerful" stance) and the "I'm really sorry you feel that way," and move along.
Seriously, he's not worth your angst right now. He doesn't DESERVE it.
Hugs & Puppy Licks,
Puppy
(((Serenity)))
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
but how could he say something so very mean and hateful...To wish my death by the hands of our S? I am not that bad of a person I really really am not*.
A) He is a mean, embittered person whose "grass is greener" is probably drying up.
B) *This - NONE of this - is about YOU. It is about HIM!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Call the police and get a restraining order against both of them. You have to fear for your safety.
Multiple, repeated verbal and physical threats of bodily harm and death from both H & S.
Serenity, do it!
It'll hurt like Hell at first like sending S to live with H to protect you and the little one did at first. But just like that decision, you will feel so relieved you did it within a few days...of peace. And quiet. And with the satisfaction again of letting him know you are NOT to be eff'ed with! Please do this.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Talk to atty quick. - If he's threatening you then you need protection now.
- The statement "We each have one kid so were even" isn't correct. He owes you support.
- Ask about insurance. He is likely not allowed to cancel suddenly and leave you and dependents without.
Most of all be strong.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
