My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

[Gardener]

Bravo, CityGirl! Every damn word spot-on! Standing O!

You know what makes me damn mad?

It seems everybody who comes here refuses to listen. When the bomb is dropped early on the steps you take immediately following the bomb are perhaps the most crucial and critical ones for both YOU as an INDIVIDUAL and the outcome of your R.

Yes, we all get it loud and clear. When the bomb first drops you are in an utter state of shock, fear and 80 million other emotions that are spinning around in your mind. That is *exactly* why any of us turned to a source such as this. To get guidance from people who have experienced the SAME DAMN THING.

But they don't listen. And things get worse and worse and often times beyond repair. Just like you, I knew better than ANYBODY and it took me a long time to listen. Then it was too late.

Do you think the people that have gone through this, some of us for TWO PLUS YEARS post here because we have nothing better to do? That we get our kicks from giving off bad advice and sharing horrible experiences just for the hell of it?

I am sorry but I think it stinks. You have NO IDEA the pain one feels when their marriage ends and they look back and realize that things could have been different had they actually put the effort in to doing what thousands of people have done that helped.

I learn from this site EVERY DAY. I am inspired EVERY DAY. I try and offer my experience or insight if I think it might help EVERY DAY. I also get very frustrated when new people just don't think we know what the hell we are talking about.

I am terribly sorry for this rant but lately this has really been upsetting me and I care about this forum and the people on it way too much to keep quiet any longer.

Sorry.