I think I can understand a morsel of what your ex must be feeling. You're presenting yourself as a most unattractive person to have any contact or communication with. And I'm actually in your corner to start with.
My post above this one kinds of hits on my frustration at this. She lost attraction for me...and her leaving has caused me to be even less attractive. But the catch is...even if I pull myself up to act as stable and un-needy as I was before the bomb was dropped that's the guy she left...and then theres still the OM.
So I have to become even better than any of that. I dont even know what kind of guy that is. If I am to set a goal to be that kind of strong/masculine guy...I have to know what I'm shooting for.
Are there any ladies here who can give examples of traits of the attractive strong guy that seems to be what women are looking for?
You might want to pick up a copy of "No More Mr. Nice Guy"...that will probably give you a good indication of what you need to be striving for...
