Thank you for your comments. It is so difficult for me not to analyze ex, that is what I do for a living so I tend to bring my work home with me.
I do feel better though when I just concentrate on myself and the kids. I seem to go back and forth on this, but am doing better every month.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11