Going All In

[MrBond]

Right now everyone is offering constructive criticism. If you want an opinion, you're going to have to take the ones that you agree and don't agree with. Otherwise what's the sense of coming on the forum if you're going to do what you're going to do anyhow.

And all these M and W you've asked who agree with you. Are they your friends and family? If so, it's obvious why they would agree with you. It's the same reason a WAS would feel validated to leave their family by their friends who "support" them.

It's my guess that maybe there were a few people who disagreed with you, but you cut them off the same way you're doing to the people here.

And besides, how many of these M and W have actually gone through what you have? What we all have? We are all just speaking from experience time and time again.

You can take what people say on here with a grain of salt. It's your right. But don't go on criticizing the people who do respond when you don't agree with what they say.

""Don't give in to her" that's not what this is. It's not "giving in" because if I am true and faithful, I WIN. Not sure how that's confusing."

I think you need to re-read what you wrote. This isn't a matter of you being true and faithful. SHE is the one who has the problem with you being true and faithful. Not the other way around.

Let's say you give her everything you say and she STILL has a problem with trusting you. What else could you offer her after you've given her everything? That's why IMHO, she is the one who has to get help for her trust issues. You can appease her in every which way. Give her the moon and the stars. But if she has a personal issue with trust, then it won't mean anything to her. And in the end you'd end up with nothing.

Just looking out for you friend.