Going All In

[Betterman]

Interesting that you all think this is a bad idea. I have been throwing this to friends of mine here and so far I have gotten positive feedback from all (M and W). Not sure if you guys would all wuss out when it came down to the crunch or not but by the looks of the posts I find it a likely outcome.

The problem is that yes, there are SEVERE trust issues on both sides.

I think that you are all missing the point here. It's a gesture that says "This is how serious I am about doing this."

I actually woke up this morning with the thought that, yes this is too lop-sided, and that I should amend the agreement to include her promising to help me fix this whole damn thing like we had agreed to to begin with. Also, let it state that if either of us cheats and is caught doing so with conclusive proof, then it falls on who is the cheater.

And as far as those above who say things like "Don't give in to her" that's not what this is. It's not "giving in" because if I am true and faithful, I WIN. Not sure how that's confusing.

On the other hand of that notion, no I will not "give in" to her. If she wants to take a stand on her willingness to leave, well then BYE! But I will let her know that if she leaves, she leaves on her own and she can expect to pack her stuff and go bcz I'm not going anywhere. My choice, my home, my kids, my life. She's NOT going to push me out of my own home again. EVER. I am tired of giving in to her craziness and am taking a stand. This is one way of doing that. It is an action plan and a damn good one at that if I may say so myself. It shows leadership, fortitude, thoughtfulness, honesty and an earnest desire to make things WORK.

Just a quick aside, I'm not here to justify myself or my supposed actions to anyone. If you don't have something constructive and helpful to add, don't bother to post in this thread. If you want to know more, I may have the time to discuss that in a different thread. I see a lot of wasted space above. Sorry, my opinion FWIW, but that's the kind of guy I am. I see it and tell it like it is. Can't handle it? <shrug>