Thanks for the tips guys. I'll start looking for that book to add to my now vast library.
It's just so sad...prior to all this I would get angry, but I was able to deal with it. I guess the things I got angry about werent nearly as life shattering as this is though.
it sure would feel good to say all the stuff I;m thinking to my ex...but then I know I would regret it right afterwards because I normally dont think of such terms and horrible thoughs even when I'm mad at people.
So I've got to work really hard not to start up the silent treatment again the next time my ex picks up D3. I did that after she blew up at me for catching her and the OM together and then I felt like crap for acting like that when she left.
I refuse to feel bad about my hurt feelings anymore...and one way to avoid that is to be calm and polite. Hostility only begets hostility.
but saying it...and doing it, are two different things. keeping my fingers crossed.
