As hard as this is for you there is going to have to come a time when you stop playing mother-hen (aka female Knight in Shining Armor) and let him start to stew in his own crap.
I haven't done anything which helps him only since August. I'm just looking after things which benefit me too.
You have your own place right?
Yes, I have my own place, but still spend lots of time at the marital abode to be with my step-dog. She is one of the reasons I am not inclined to hasten his return. She is old, has health problems and I want to be with her for as long as I can.
If you continue letting this child run around on his escapades and keep cleaning his mess up after him... when do you expect him to come and face the consequences of his actions?
I'm just trying to do what's best for me and the dog. If it's to my benefit, I'm fine with him doing his Peter Pan thing as long as he likes. Don't worry, there will be plenty of mess left for him to deal with. I hope that you have taken care of the dental work.
The dental is progressing bit by bit. It will take a while. I got a tooth abscess last month and holy crap that was painful. I never want to do that again.
It's good to know you're still alive and kicking. I've seen your posts on some other people's thread.
Yeah, I'm still around. Looked like you took a breather for a while too.
Separate your finances so you can take care of you and let H take care of himself. You said you don't like the fact that he treats you like an assistant, so quit. Have you discussed this with a L?
Our money is separate,(unfortunately for me} We never had much togetherness in the marriage in any respect.I am taking care of me, and right now I prefer having the house too, so long as he is paying the utilities. Also, there are other subscriptions and such which he pays for and I also use and benefit from, so some minimal effort to keep that going is worth it to me. And yes, I have the general legal overview. I sure wish I had known he would be gone so long, and saved all the rent I didn't need to pay. Still, I made the best decision I could with what I knew at the time.
