Question for the supporters.

Does it make sense to do the DB and NC stuff for awhile before the conversation about its not going to work , and I am sorry, your right, we cant work, this will never work and separating is the right thing to do etc....

I am just torn with this.. thoughts.. please..

M 43 W 43
S15 S 12 D 10
ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)